My Story...

Authenticity inspires me more than trends.

· Love whites most of the times

· Prefer green tea, no coffee - no cola since childhood. Ice creams yes!

· Am someone serious! I wish I was gifted with humor and good smile. I would have smiled more often😊

· Have multiple interests – Travel, Art, Interior Design, Numerology, Occult sciences, Cooking only when guests come. Used to love dancing but with age have shifted to singing.

· I think I have pretty good taste. My son disagrees.

· Precious possession – My first car from the first job because it gave me freedom

· Values – Freedom, love, and Independence. I can’t wait for anyone to join my plan to be able to do anything. I can eat alone, sit alone in any restaurant, travel alone and watch movies alone.

· Background- Science till graduation – then studied Management – Got into banking so Finance came into life – then studied a bit of design, created Art business as well as Travel business…then got into spirituality to get answers where conventional education failed.

· Strong trait – Sort out, sort out, sort out ! And hence lage raho lage raho lage raho !

Have patience? Then read on…

GET TO KNOW ME

Early Influences

Roy Choudhury is not my real surname, it was a title given to us by Britishers

Proud of my lineage, especially my grandfather whose short teachings I haven’t forgotten. He gave me, my first Saraswati mantra. In my birth place called Pachmarhi in MP, I am still known as ‘Choudhury Sahab ki poti’

My favorite person is my late maternal uncle. Even if the whole world was to go against me, I know there would have been one person standing by me no matter what, if he were alive. His coming home was my biggest childhood joy. I would get up from all fevers in his presence. Love means selflessness, making kids laugh and happy. That’s what I understood back then.

Apart from mamaji ka ghar during vacations, my best child hood memories include eating mangoes like mad & leading team of kids for picnics. Hated watching movies & never ever gave more than 50% to any sport thinking I might hurt myself. Truly believed in my weak constitution 😊

My father took inspiration from Mr. Bachchan, the angry young man of those days and my mother was full of fears due to her over protected upbringing so I think I was born out of anger and fear.

The best part about my parents was that they gave me all the freedom to do whatever I wanted, to be whoever I wanted. And consciously they never tried to instill any fear in me by saying don’t do such and such thing…this will happen otherwise.

From going to the bank at a small age to getting cylinder at home, we were not treated differently than boys. My father spoke about our education and not marriage.

That said, ‘I was also a sincere child’, used to sit on the first bench to raise hands and say ‘yes ma’am’ 😊

I have two sisters, both of them make me super proud for what they have created for themselves.

Presently, we are three strong headed nut cases staying at home together. My husband, my son and me.

We love each other. We hate each other. We can't stand each other. And we can't stay without each other.

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My Nuclear Family

The drama in my story

Like most in this world, I have faced challenges in all areas of my life be it health, career, relationships or parenting.

Nothing…nothing was a smooth sail even if it doesn’t seem so from my social media pictures. But let me tell you how I reacted to life

I thought I wasn’t good at Maths in school so took Maths as one of the main subjects during graduation

When I decided to do MBA, my father expired just one day before my CAT exam. I traveled from Bhopal to Pachmarhi, did the cremation part, came back to Bhopal, took exam and then went back to Pachmarhi to do the remaining rituals. I couldn’t afford to lose my year as I had paid for all the entrance application forms from my tuition earnings.

In all of my romantic relationships, I never gave anyone a second chance once I lost trust even if I continued to talk or stay in touch.

Irrespective of opinions, I went to see the boy (now my husband) before marrying all the way to Jaipur from Bengaluru basis just three phone conversations, only because I had a very strong gut feel.

Wasn’t liking my job. Went to my boss, said, ‘I don’t like my job.’ Of course, paid price for it. Don’t have any fancy designation or perks that come with it till date including PF account with big balance.

Overcame or learnt to manage many health issues including fibromyalgia. Went on to do Kashmir great lakes trek in Himalayas as soon as I was a little better.

Wifehood, daughter in law hood, motherhood, all have come with their own share of joys and pains…and when no one listens at home, I start filling my journals quote by quote which becomes a book 😊

I have made mistakes, I have had many unreasonable reactions due to anger and fear. Yet, living life as me without copying has been very satisfying so far with all its ups and downs.

While I want all the good things and perfect settings within and around, I don’t want to be anyone else😊